Find a way to explain, as nicely as you can, that you’re not feeling the need to go forward, then say goodbye.“Just say that as much as you enjoyed getting to know her, you realized you two weren’t quite the match you’d hoped,” Davidson advises.
There’s always the chance that the person you got to know online isn’t what she seems.
Men aren’t the only predators hunting for their next mark or broken toys searching for someone who can “fix them.” If your date is too eager too soon, or seems a little too interested in your personal finances, or for some reason just makes the hair on your arms stand up—and not in a good way—it’s best to proceed with caution, if at all.
So, if you've exchanged a couple flirtatious messages with a potential mate, established a basic foundation of things you have in common and are somewhat assured that it's worth testing the waters with a meet-up, take the plunge and ask her to hang out.
First meetings, especially those catalyzed on the Internet don’t have to be complicated, but there are a few caveats to heed prior to jumping in.
So if she's being a little less forthcoming with personal information or unwilling to go somewhere more private, she’s exercising common sense.
Let her, and also bear in mind that common sense works both ways—the aforementioned cautions all hold merit, for her as well as for [pagebreak] One of the biggest mistakes of online communication is thinking a relationship forged from over-sharing is the real deal.
“She’ll spend time doing her hair, applying her makeup oh-so-perfectly, choosing the right outfit—all of which is easily an hour or more out of her day.
You won’t be spending the same amount of prep time, so consider that her investment has already trumped yours, and make it worth her while.” Davidson suggests that you meet somewhere that you’d take a “real” first date, not just a “check-her-out” prospect.
Meaning what you say and doing what you promise will show that you are a quality guy.
Playing it ‘cool’ by being unavailable, or simply lacking follow-through, will make any smart woman think twice about trusting you with her time, let alone her heart.” And if it turns out it’s just a case of you’re just not that into her? If you’re out for a meal or drinks, pick up the tab, but do not tell her you’ll be calling if you won’t.
Women are told to A) Meet their date in a public, B) Let someone know where they'll be and with whom, C) Bring a cell phone, and D) Have an exit strategy. No matter how hot you are for her, or how hot she seems to be for you online, in person, the first thing she’s going to try to suss out is whether or not you’re to be trusted.