I coach all of my clients through a “marriage map” exercise to create a road map of a partner that will make them happy, which is necessary to start picking the right people. Many women stare blankly at me when I ask this question, because they’ve been so busy taking care of everyone else around them that they’ve totally lost sight of what makes them happy.
Make a list of five to 10 things that bring you joy, and start to do them again.
When I say "date," I'm referring to the old-school style of dating — not sleeping together or hooking up.
Have a good vetting process and keep the pipeline filled.
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The dating village should be filled with people who support you and will bring you up, instead of bringing you down.
Dating after divorce isn’t easy, and will require a great group of people surrounding you to keep you motivated and inspired!
Maybe it’s your buddies from work, school, your family, neighbors or kids.
Are you aware of your role in the marriage’s demise?
And, have you made as much peace as possible with your ex and the divorce?
Waiting until you are exclusive is a great way to stay the happy course!
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Once you have a road map of a partner that makes you happy, give attraction and chemistry a chance to develop, even if it takes five or more dates to figure it out.