This is not to say that you should feel the need to actually alter your personality just because someone finds you a little intimidating. Is he enthusiastic about this, but he doesn't seem to know how to take it to the next level?Quite the opposite, actually–someone being intimidated by you is, as they say, a “personal problem.” But if you, for one, have heard the word “intimidating” one too many times, and notice that potential crushes tend to cower a little in your wake,you might want to check out these signs that your crush is actually intimidated by you, so you know what to look out for: Your crush hangs out by your locker. Either he's totally clueless (pretty likely, he's a guy), intimidated by you (also very likely), or a mix of the two (the most likely scenario).These are things that I admire and wish I saw in myself. But sometimes I wonder if my quippy response is correct; is it really intimidation that keeps the men from my fabulous friends?
But also remember that some guys might just feel threatened by an assertive woman—and that’s his problem, not yours.“An assertive and powerful woman is against a gender tradition that many still hold onto, explains licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, Stephen Betchen, Ph. “For example, some men have trouble tolerating a woman who is more successful than they are—but we’re seeing more and more of this.
There are over 2 million more women in college today than men.”I asked Dr.
I asked many of my friends who often get the “he is just intimidated by you” line why they think they fit the mold of a hard-to-approach gal.
Here’s what they told me: Abby: "I am very independent, and I love autonomy.
To deal, try extending the conversations you do have a little each time, or taking some sort of action yourself to show that you're interested.
It doesn't have to be anything big, just a little sign that you like hanging out with them and wouldn't mind doing it some more.
If this is happening, just bite the bullet and ask if they actually want to hang out soon. Image source:i Stock Or, you know, a LOT braggadocio. Like, he's somehow managed to mention his GPA, position on the lacrosse team, and the summer home his family has in one breath.
This can be equal parts exasperating and endearing, usually, but you can chalk it up to them being impressed by your resume. You can use this as an opportunity to toot your own horn a little.
Find that your crush is suddenly mentioning David Foster Wallace and the Higgs boson and obscure art house documentaries for no reason in particular? If not, you can gently sway the conversation towards something a little more quotidian. Image source:i Stock This one is a little tricky, since pulling out a phone is usually considered a blaring siren of disinterest.
But think of all the times that you've used your phone as a crutch in a situation where you feel a little bit out of your comfort zone--it's happened a lot, right?
Bonus points if Brennan has a habit of talking about how cool and great and awesome his friend is--this means that they definitely talked strategy beforehand, and your crush wanted you to know what his ~attributes~ are.