Garofola isn’t the only guy who is fed up with playing the field.
“Everywhere you go, you’ll be with one girl, but then you see another beautiful girl, and suddenly your mind can go elsewhere …
We all want the next best thing.” Tech inventor Ben Way, who moved to the Upper East Side from the UK, has also felt the pressure to stay single, since most of his friends aren’t in relationships — and blames this partly on American culture.
“A lot of my married friends tell me it’s horrible being tied down, and that women will just divorce you and take half,” says Eric Borich, a 32-year-old portfolio manager at Oxford Property Group.
Borich cites pressure to keep dating around so that his married friends can live vicariously through his enviable lifestyle.
“In Europe, you’re either friends with benefits or monogamous,” says the 34-year-old, who now uses matchmaking service Lasting Connections.
“In America, you’re either friends with benefits, going out or this big area in the middle of ‘you’re just seeing each other.’ This totally screws up dating.” Nick Notas, a Boston-based dating expert and blogger at Nick Notas.com, sympathizes with these busy bachelors.
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“Meanwhile, all my single guy friends love their freedom and tell me to keep dating, too.” Like Garofola, he finds the city’s surplus of datable women to be a con — not a pro — when it comes to finding a potential mate.