Back in Bible times, one God-fearing young woman said regarding her fiancé: “I am my dear one’s, and toward me is his craving.” (Song of Solomon ) As the wedding day approaches, it is right and proper that an engaged couple discuss certain intimate matters.However, is phone sex a safe way to express romantic feelings? Even engaged couples are obliged to follow the counsel of the apostle Paul: “Let fornication and uncleanness of every sort or greediness not even be mentioned among you, just as it befits holy people; neither shameful conduct nor foolish talking nor obscene jesting, things which are not becoming, but rather the giving of thanks.
For some youths, calling telephone sex lines has become an uncontrollable addiction.
One young man we’ll call Jim demonstrates just how “hooked” some can become.
Other people, however, are promoting telephone sex strictly for profit.
Whether the obscene talk takes place between courting couples or between strangers, phone sex is alarmingly popular. “It’s the safest sex you can have,” claims one woman. For instance, in October 2000, in response to an increase in HIV infections, a group of Russian health experts took out newspaper advertisements to promote telephone sex.
The Bible teaches that sexual intimacies should be enjoyed only within the framework of marriage.
(Hebrews 13:4) But phone sex encourages young ones to experience sexual pleasures outside marriage.The calls to the line became more and more frequent. Stimulating sexual desires while you are still unmarried runs counter to the counsel of God’s Word.It urges: “Deaden, therefore, your body members that are upon the earth as respects fornication, uncleanness, sexual appetite.”—Colossians 3:5.Telling your Christian parents would be a good start. But they may also be in the best position to help monitor your behavior so that you don’t have a relapse.The elders in your local congregation of Jehovah’s Witnesses will also be willing and able to help out.If you are courting, be determined to remain chaste, even when talking on the phone.