If they can't be bothered to formulate well constructed sentences with polysyllabic words with care and patience, then they don't deserve your attention. I agree that IM or videochat is good to further scope out the guy and to "communicate in real time" as Serendipity said.
If these guys continue to push....delete and block them. (The program doesn't even need to be downloaded to be used.)Advice to fellow guys.
The first priority in meeting the right woman is to make her feel comfortable and secure with you. You can 'wow' or impress her later but always be aware that she needs that 'easy' feeling before she gets to know you better.
Bottom line...always respect her concern over her safety, etc.
The worse that can happen to us guys is we end up with the date from Hell..least it makes a good story.
I figured out my own little diabolical means of dealing with nigerian-esque scammers. So yahoo just takes up space, takes forever to load up at the start and is generally a nuisance on the taskbar... Ironically, people here say that the pay sites are for the more "serious" men, but personally, I have been contacted by more scammers and fakes from those sites than on Po F.
When I start receiving emails with pictures of russian models, I start sending pictures of the african actors in the movie "the gods must be crazy", and claiming it is me. If the guy to whom you are chatting/emailing fits more than a few of the following, he may be a scammer:- His photo is attractive (and also not his, of course)- He's either divorced or widowed, and depending on the age group he's targeting, usually with 1 child around 12-13.- He's originally from a country outside the US - they usually pick France, Ireland or Germany.- He describes himself as self-employed or an entrepreneur, or says he has a good job, making from K on up.- He wants to send you a lot of photos of his house, cars, etc.
I don’t like messengers because I like to have the freedom to really think about what I’m reading and responding and I’m not a fast typer. Is the difference between e-mail and messenger that big? I just felt really pressured and also got some red flags on the wording as it sounded too demanding.
If he just continued talking to me we would have already begun to get to know each other and in my imagination met in person ASAP.
In contrast, a woman can end up with some weird stalker, pervert or predator of some type. I was very disappointed but I said no thanks immediately.
Unfortunately, 15-20 years ago I would have either bargained or given in.
If he says he's foreign born then I'm OK with poor grammar, but if he's trying to pass himself off as American born, then It's a HUGE red flag.