When she advises a catatonic millionaire to “find his inner hunter,” she is actually trying to make him see that forcing women to pursue him will not make him happy.
When she counsels a sun-wizened millionaire to have plastic surgery, it might seem shallow, but she is channeling the old James Brown line, “You got to use what you got to get what you want.” (If you are “plumpty dumpty,” don’t ask for Ashton Kutchor, as she has told some female millionaires, is another version of this advice.) When she screeches at a woman in one of her casting sessions to straighten her hair, she is not espousing an anti-Semitic ideal of beauty (curly hair should stay in Israel, she has said): She is a realist, conveying “her” millionaires’ actual desires.
(Photo by Astrid Stawiarz/Getty Images)HOLLYWOOD, CA - NOVEMBER 19: TV personality Patti Stanger arrives at We tv celebrates the Premiere of 'Marriage Boot Camp' Reality Stars and 'Ex-isled' at Le Jardin on November 19, 2015 in Hollywood, California.
(Photo by Paul Redmond/Film Magic)LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 19: Patti Stanger (L) and model Carmen Electra attend the WE tv premiere of 'Marriage Boot Camp' Reality Stars and 'Ex-isled' on November 19, 2015 in Los Angeles, California.
(Photo by Jonathan Leibson/Getty Images for WE tv)NEW YORK, NY - JUNE 21: Patti Stanger arrives to Fran Drescher And Friends 2015 NYC Gay Pride Kick Off And Father's Day Celebration at Pier 40 on June 21, 2015 in New York City.
(Photo by Anna Webber/Wire Image)NEW YORK, NY - MAY 14: Patti Stanger attends the 2015 NBCUniversal Cable Entertainment Upfront at The Jacob K.
(Photo by D Dipasupil/Getty Images for Extra)PASADENA, CA - JANUARY 15: Patti Stanger attends the NBCUniversal 2015 press tour at The Langham Huntington Hotel and Spa on January 15, 2015 in Pasadena, California.
(Photo by Jason La Veris/Film Magic)LOS ANGELES, CA - JULY 27: TV personality Patti Stanger attends the Daily Mail Summer White Party with Lisa Vanderpump at Pump on July 27, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. Rodriguez/Getty Images for Daily Mail.com)NEW YORK, NY - JUNE 28: Patti Stanger and Judith Gottesman attend the Million Dollar Matchmaker premiere at the Crosby Street Hotel on June 28, 2016 in New York City. In her sit-down with ET, she also weighed in on Hollywood's new "It" couple -- Taylor Swift and Tom Hiddleston."I could see them getting engaged this year," she said.celebrates the “committed monogamous relationship” throughout the show and often ends unhappily.Perhaps Stanger’s most infamous and iron-clad rule is that millionaires have to abstain from sex before they are “exclusive.” She is known to announce: “No in, in, or in,” pointing to each orifice, in case any deaf-mutes happen to be watching.After Stanger’s wedding plans imploded in 2010, another complaint surfaced: It was absurd for someone who was herself unmarried to advise the romantically challenged.Others scorn her chutzpah at placing herself in the tradition of the yenta or —the Hebrew word for matchmaker—because those professions are concerned with finding soulmates for people from all walks of life, including the disenfranchised, whereas Stanger charges huge sums to match millionaires and civilians.Patti Stanger has made a living out of helping wealthy people find love, but she shared a few tips with ET that can help even the average Joe.