I perfectly understood we got different backgrounds but she wanted me to act Canadian when am not. I never knew she was Canadian and never asked her, she told me.
I too am in a relationship with a Nigerian Man, I love him dearly.
I am all about looking after him, love to cook for him, love to please him, I respect him as head of the household, I sometimes have an issue with him telling me how to better take care of my own needs(rest, eating more, just plain pampering myself) he can be firm about that but I am learning, have always done the looking after so now it feels a little odd when someone wants to look after me.
If you found a Nigerian man in US, try it out and learn as much of the culture as u can, because its a beautiful thing finding a GOOD man back from our original roots.
BUT, if that joker aint acting right, and his behavour is INCONSISTENT and not what you want in a man, let his tail GO! Remember, Brothas, weather from US or Nigeria are not all put in the same category. As far as the culture thing, someone on Nairaland may better help u with that understanding, love & light,if you are dating a Nigerian man you must expect many things, in the culture of the Nigerians they always love to dominate their partner which means you should e somebody that is very patient, they always want to show that they are the Husband which means you have to be humble another thing you should expect is that they are easily carried away with love which means you need to hold unto him tightly so that he will not be snatched away from you/ Nigerian men love to be cared for.
Back then, whenever we have any argument, she'll tell me am so African. Finestlex: How come the only Canadian I dated was full of poo. We all have good and bad sides but we must embrace both in someone we love.
She sometimes say she hates black but she's a dependent of Jamaica. She asked me to move into her apartment and I said no, she told me I was staying at my place so I could cheat on her, I had my place before I met her. I broke up with my girl last month cos she's too proud of herself that she's Canadian and am not. Of cos I can't be an option to anyone when I make you a priority.
Sometimes I think common sense should tell a man how to act towards his woman, but then I remember we have different views, I just basically would like to know why he can't/ or won't diverge away from his traditions for just a while (relationship wise), because I consider myself to be feminist, yet I've sacrificed some of that pride and cooked a few meals, cleaned up a bit, and done so without griping or complaining, wonder if he'd do the same, You will definitely expect different things like behaviours and understanding of opinions.
You knew this before you agreed to date each other so i think the best to be ready to face all the joy of relationships and other side of it.cooking & cleaning?
But for the most part there have been no clashing issues, When and if they do arise we will deal with it appropriately, we have been very clear with the fact that if you don't say whats on your mind or troubling you it wont get dealt with.kistehsiadont try to tell him what to do only support him when he's made up his mind about somethin and do not argue wit him cos they hate intimidation.
be respectful and trust me you'l always love a Nigerian man.
babygurl, tell me what man in the US would do this more often, without griping, nontheless a Nigerian man?