On his birthday Tuesday March 15, 2016 Bret Michaels is taking time to include you into his birthday celebration.
Bret is coming straight to your home in a very special way and will perform his most requested solo hit “All I Ever Needed” as well as his other hits “Every Rose Has It’s Thorn”, “Something To Believe In” and more!
To Duckworth, however, Smith won’t get off the treadmill and is therefore a model to be celebrated. Some of the research cited to support grit is remarkably unenlightening when you think about it. Are more A’s given to students who report that they put off doing what they enjoy until they finish their homework (as one study found)? In other words, those who do what they’ve been told, regardless of whether it’s satisfying or sensible, are rewarded by those who told them to do it.
In one study conducted by Duckworth and her colleagues, freshman cadets at West Point who scored high on a grit questionnaire (“I finish whatever I begin”) were less likely to quit during the grueling summer training program. (Interestingly, earlier research, including a pair of studies Duckworth herself cites to show that self-discipline predicts academic performance, discovered that students with high grades tend to be more conformist than creative.) In short, if persistent students get higher grades, that may not make a case for grit so much as a case against using grades as a marker for success.
Any of those objectives would almost certainly lead to prescriptions quite different from “Do one thing and never give up.” Furthermore, Duckworth has no use for children who experiment with several musical instruments.
“The kid who sticks with one instrument is demonstrating grit,” she told a reporter.
More than smarts, we’re told, what kids need to succeed is old-fashioned They have to be able to resist temptation, put off doing what they enjoy in order to grind through whatever they’ve been told to do — and keep at it for as long as it takes. Whether persistence is desirable depends on your goal.
Not everything is worth doing, let alone doing for extended periods.
It’s justified almost exclusively as a way to boost academic achievement.
If that sounds commendable, take a moment to reflect on other possible goals one might have for children — for example, to lead a life that’s fulfilling, morally admirable, or characterized by psychological health.
Continuing to do what you’ve been doing often represents the path of least resistance, so it can take guts to cut your losses. Following a year-long study of adolescents, Canadian researchers Gregory Miller and Carsten Wrosch concluded that those “who can disengage from unattainable goals enjoy better well-being…and experience fewer symptoms of everyday illness.” 6.
That’s as important a message to teach our children as the usefulness of perseverance. What matters isn’t just how long one persists, but why one does so.
And not everyone who works hard is pursuing something worthwhile.